Why Older Sisters are Often like Mothers

While siblings share several roles and connections, there's a unique phenomenon where older sisters naturally adopt maternal traits, embodying the nurturing essence typically associated with motherhood. This unspoken role shapes the lives of both the older sister and her younger siblings.

From a young age, older sisters often find themselves assuming responsibilities beyond their years. My mother was the oldest of nine children. She had to quit school to stay home and help with the younger children. Today we are not pulling older children out of school, but they are helping with homework, mediating sibling squabbles, or providing emotional support. This need to care for and protect younger siblings mirrors the maternal instinct, fostering a sense of security and stability within the family.

One of the most apparent ways older sisters emulate mothers is through their guidance and mentorship. Of course I wasn’t always open to the advice they wanted to give me. But looking back I realize that they offered wisdom gained through their own experiences From offering relationship advice to career guidance, older sisters impart valuable lessons that shape their siblings' perspectives and decisions. In this capacity, they not only share knowledge but also provide the emotional support necessary for growth.

Older sisters often become the confidantes of their younger siblings, offering a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on. This role extends beyond mere companionship; it embodies the nurturing essence of motherhood, where empathy and understanding form the foundation of their relationship. Through moments of joy and sorrow, older sisters offer unwavering support.
In times of adversity or turmoil, older sisters rise to the occasion, embodying the strength and resilience reminiscent of mothers. They offer comfort in times of distress, providing reassurance and encouragement when needed most. Whether it's facing academic challenges, navigating relationships, or coping with loss, older sisters stand as pillars of support, guiding their siblings through life's uncertain journey.

The dynamic between older sisters and their younger siblings is not without its complexities. While the role of a surrogate mother can be rewarding, it can also be accompanied by feelings of pressure and responsibility. They didn’t ask for the job of being the older sister, and they can’t forget their own needs.
Despite these challenges, the bond between older sisters and their younger siblings is enduring. The relationship with my sisters has evolved into a relationship grounded in mutual respect, admiration, and love.

Older sisters embody the essence of motherhood in their relationships with their younger siblings. Through their guidance, support, and unconditional love, they nurture and shape the lives of those entrusted to their care. While their role may often go unnoticed or unacknowledged, the impact they have is profound and everlasting. That is why today I am taking the time to thank my sisters for all they have done for me.

Do you have a sister, or someone like a sister you need to call and thank today?